How to Handle Nosy Family & Friends
Relationships are tough to navigate, and they’re especially hard if you’re trying to choose between pleasing your friends and family or pleasing yourself.
It’s easy for someone to say, “Just do what you want, and don’t worry about anyone else,” but it’s harder to put this into action – especially when “anyone else” is the person closest to you. There will be friends, family, and co-workers who may unknowingly (or knowingly) sabotage you in your efforts toward living your best life. This doesn’t mean they don’t love or care for you – it simply means they have issues they have not yet addressed within themselves. They’re projecting. The best response in a situation like this is to let it go. Their words and their behavior are a reflection of themselves and the problems they have yet to unearth. Don’t respond emotionally. Instead, worry about yourself and keep pushing forward.
We’ve all had that awkward family dinner where the comments are spewing:
“Why aren’t you eating any bread?”
“No seconds tonight?”
…or the dreaded “sHe’S oN a DiEt!!!”
But think about it. If you were 60 pounds heavier, you’d be hearing similar comments:
“Should you be having ANOTHER roll?”
“You’re really going to have a second helping?”
“Well, have you ever thought about going on a diet?”
You find yourself thinking, “If I wanted your opinion, I would have asked!” you know? So, here are your options:
Respond bitterly and possibly damage your relationship with that person – OR – ignore it, choose to let it roll off of your shoulders, and move on.
People are always going to give their two cents (Maybe you do it to others without meaning to, too!) Don’t waste energy being angry, because it isn’t worth it. Instead, redirect your energy toward something positive. Remember why you love that person, how much you love that person, and choose to focus on the good rather than the temporary bad. There may be people who love you but are not on your side. You have the option to lessen the time spent with them for the sake of your own wellbeing.
Life is full of choices – we make thousands every day. Choose your peace of mind, always.